Since the pandemic began back in 2020 there has been so much divide among people and yes there already was within our country in lot of ways but it has become even bigger then it was before.
This is being seen through a lot of families, friends, relationships.
All of it mainly because no one wants to show respect towards anyone else's opinion or choices and some are trying to force those they disagree with to cave in such immense ways, jobs being lost, relationships broken or completely lost.
Grandparents not being allowed to see grandchildren or vise versa, relatives refusing to see each other over disagreements...etc...
My family is seeing that first hand with my sibling and I'm putting this here because that's one of my best ways of coping with the feelings that come from situations like this one.
So my sibling and I previously had a falling out because of the hurtful things that were said to me simply because I don't live my life the same way he does due to covid-19.
On top of that we already were not very close and did not have a strong relationship, there was a lot of strain but yet it felt like something that could be easily fixed if we were both on board...until 2020.
Over time I've had to make decisions to distance myself from relatives who were toxic and verbally abusive towards me for no good reason and as I've gotten older it made me realize I did not have to put up with that kind of behavior, I did not have to pretend that it was ok because it was not acceptable at all.
Boundaries can be set and I can protect myself and that's pretty much how I am handling things with the pandemic.
Medically speaking it was not good for me to wear a regular mask exemptions exist and that makes people upset but that's due to others not wanting to take responsibility for their own health.
My health matters too, I take care of my immune system and other individuals can do the same.
Wearing a half face shield was the best way to go with all these mandates and now with vaccine mandates same story, not medically safe for me, but that's ok because if someone else wants to get the shot for themselves they can, that's how it's suppose to be.
That was always how it worked and still does despite all the denial, the shot (if it works) protects ONLY the person getting it not anyone else because you can't change someone else's immune system by you yourself getting jabbed. (I now have natural immunity as well.)
Back to my sibling, we were told this week that due to some of us remaining pure blooded he will not see any of us in person and will cease coming to anymore family holidays.
Yes his choice and his loss, for me I'm not bothered by it specifically because we already had our issues but what does upset me is how much hurt was done to our parents by that, I don't like to see their hearts get broken like that.
A lot of anger was felt and many words I would have liked to say him but had to realize it would not change anything even if I did, he feels so certain that he is in the right so unless his feelings on it ever changes this is where we are with him.
At the same time for a little while now I've been saying some people have become the worst versions by their fear and most will never come out of it.
Sometimes we just have to learn to move on without them.
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